We’re not inventive.
We’re not learning.
We’re not empathetic.
We’re not, we’re not, we’re not.
All three of these articles have been published in the last two days. How is it that in the last two days, researchers have found three totally separate things that this generation apparently fails at?
Granted, I’m on the oldish end of the generation being talked about here, but if you look at generational studies, I’m more of a Millennial than an Xer (having been born in the cusp years), so that’s who I’m identifying with.
What’s really interesting to me, though, is the question of who exactly this particular blame game is geared towards. (And let’s not fool ourselves that this is anything but a blame game. In fact, in the article on our lack of empathy one of the subheadings is, “What’s to blame?”)
At first I got all pissy, thinking that the elder generation(s) were once again talking about how shitty we are while conveniently forgetting who was at the helm (and who was underage or just transitioning to adulthood) while the US went to hell in a handbasket over the last decade or so. (The first draft of this post consisted primarily of me saying, “Fuck you.”)
Then I thought about the tone of the articles and the research some more. This is really just as much a story of those generations blaming themselves for doing a crappy job of leading and teaching us. “We didn’t even manage to teach them empathy!” they seem to be wailing.
So this seems to be a double-edged blame game, or what we could also call Blame Game Xtreme: Blame for All! (I appreciate generosity as much as anyone else, but really, you can keep your blame in your own black heart.)
Blame Game Xtreme, Round 1:
- Let’s blame the elder generation for not adequately teaching the values our society holds dear.
- Let’s blame the younger generation for not rising above the elder generation’s bad example.
- Let’s blame the conservatives/liberals for trying to force their ideology into our schools, media, art, etc.
- Let’s blame China for growing too fast.
- Let’s blame the older, mostly dead generations because they’re not here to defend themselves.
- Let’s blame puppies. Because anything that cute must be diabolically evil.
This is ridiculous, people. I’m tired of studies showing how we fail. I want more studies on the work that will help us not fail.
Let’s forget the blame and start the work. The work always starts with you. As Confucius said:
To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.
It all starts with us and every decision we make every day. Are you playing the blame game or are you setting your heart right?
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PS-I posted on my blog two days in a row! I think that’s a first.